What's in a name?

Well a lot it would seem if you have seen this you tube piece

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=edZjdgU0asM

Katie Hopkins is without a doubt one of the saddest individuals on this planet if she thinks that you judge a person by their name. Sadly she may be right as I believe that there are many individuals out there who are exactly like that, even sadder I've bedded a few of them in the past.

Now that might seem like a childish statement however the psychology behind it is rather more fascinating. For it is the psychology of class, power and sex.

We like to believe we live in a classless society where everyone is equal. I'd like to put an academic spin on that if I may for a second:

What a load of bollocks!

Oh I'm sorry if you're offended but after all I'm just showing my class as so to speak.

You see I am most definitely working middle class. My mother and father both worked hard and when I was born they gave me a wonderful name. So wonderful that I ditched it as soon as I could.

For they called me Tracy.

Now growing up in a rough tough Yorkshire school with what was always perceived as a girl's name meant that I was gay! But hang on I couldn't be gay because homosexuality wasn't acknowledged in Huddersfield then. Ask my best friend Paul, he hid his homosexuality for years due to the fact he was not only gay but mixed race. And I thought I had it hard with a girl's name. I also found it hard to get off with the girls I fancied too because of it. Because they thought I must be gay too. So I was ostracised by the boys for being worthless and the girls because I was well ...... worthless.

So how did I overcome this? Well I changed my name to Trace, (everyone thinks I'm American now) and went about bedding as many posh women as I could. I played cricket and wore a blazer with my whites. I played badminton and golf because it was a great way to distance myself from my background. I even learned to sail because I thought it was a good way to better myself socially (This is what watching Howard's Way does for you), oh and I also learned to mix cocktails and speak with a Noel Coward accent. The reason why I was so successful was because these women never saw me as a threat, or a serious companion, just an interesting shag with a bit of rough as so to speak. Either that or they were trying to find out if I was gay and could be turned!

And there lies the problem with Katie Hopkins. She is by no means alone when she says that she judges a child by their name. I see it all the time. Interestingly enough I see it with my youngest son now. The number of times he is judged because of where he lives and what I look like. You see I tend to dress down most of the time, scruffy some would say. And I pick my son up from school so I must be unemployed. No I just happen to earn a living in a different way to others and chose not to act like a fashion model all of the time. I am also highly intelligent with a string of letters and awards after my name.

And this is all about bullying for want of a better name. People are so insecure with their own lives that they have to turn it on the most defenceless in our society, our children. A child doesn't know the significance of a name unless an adult smears it in some way. And then a child will copy that act from the parent.

So is there something in a name, well yes if you listen to your parent's views. Children are not born thinking ooh you're named after a type of wine so you must be getting ready to appear on the Jeremy Kyle Show. They are born wonderfully untainted and it is adults who use them as pawns in the chess game of life.

And for your information Katie when I was younger I believed that the only way to better myself was to Roger some posh bird. That is until I quickly realised that they were so caught up in their own mediocrity and self importance that they could never understand what the act of making love was all about. So I learned to understand people and in particular women. I learned about making love, not shagging. And I learned that actually when we are all naked and with our lovers class doesn't mean a thing nor does a name.

I am so glad that I grew up Katie, isn't it about time you did too?