Maslow describes how man is going through a process to reach a psychological state where he self actualises. In other words transcends the need for the human world in it's consumer sense. It is all about the inner relationship and the relationship on an emotional level with those around. The challenge within this is man's own desire to trip himself up.
Now interestingly I use the words man, his and him and that is because traditionally men were seen as everything and women as well, women. That concept today is totally outrageous and it is actually by looking how women are psychologically that we see where man is going wrong.
You could argue that man bases his self actualisation on my penis is bigger than your penis therefor my seed will spread further and last longer. Man has an overriding need for bigger and better toys, more powerful cars, more money in the bank. To him that is security but in reality that is his insecurity. This powerful motivator added to large amounts of testosterone drives the world we live in. The problem was that woman bought into this early on. Women were physically smaller, could be dominated more easily (and no I'm not talking 50 shades here) and whilst man would hunt woman would gather.
This is a different world today and man quite frankly has too many balls for it. You see in this humble commentators mind man is too bothered still about his penis when he should be more bothered about his brain. Woman is now coming to the fore because if we are logical about evolution the next evolutionary process in man will be the ability to connect with thought or feeling. In other words the ability to mind read.
How many men have gone on about I don't understand women? How many women have felt insecure because they can't get the right man? Or spend years with men who they care for but don't really connect with. How many men still hunt the trophy wife rather than look below the skin and the breasts and the legs? (although I have to admit I rather like legs myself )
Physical attraction is still a good thing , we have to procreate after all, and well sex is fun of course. But if you don't connect at a psychological level then what's the point? It's just a couple of hours (or about 30 seconds in my case) of extreme physical feeling and then its's all about "Is that the time? better be going then"
The problem is man has used this insecurity and somehow stuck it on to woman's psyche. Therefore it is the woman, who naturally has a greater emotional connect with herself, who starts to believe that she is at fault. She therefor starts to doubt herself when in reality she is still playing into the oldest power game in the book man v woman.
Experiencing some of the things that have challenged me through life has taught me that if I don't connect with myself how can I possibly connect with anyone else? My penis is large enough thank you for what it needs to do but in reality it feels a million times bigger when I am in real psychological harmony with someone. And for that I have to understand that emotions are the key to everything.
So it is good to feel it is good to feel insecure. Because if you feel insecure you are learning that at the end of insecurity comes security. Security within yourself and that is the only totally secure position you can ever truly have.
So if you are feeling insecure today rejoice as it is a part of a journey on your way to self-actualisation. Seek out the freedom insecurity will ultimately give you
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